Here Are 6 Reasons that Lead to Relationship Breakdown and How to Avoid Them…

By Adam Armstrong

These days, more relationships FAIL than succeed. It’s true… I just read a study that showed that more than 50% of marriages in the US now end in the divorce courts!

That’s A LOT of failed relationships. And, A LOT of money going to the Family Lawyers!

What’s interesting is that this is something going on throughout society, affecting both rich and poor. You constantly hear stories of children growing up in deprived backgrounds, with no father around. Likewise, every week there’s another high profile couple who can’t make it work anymore…

Jeff Bezos – the owner of Amazon.com – springs to mind. His divorce was the most expensive ever, and made his wife one of the richest women in the World, even now they’re no longer ‘an item’!

The question is:

“What makes relationships fail, and what can you do to have a more successful relationship with your woman?

Read on and I’ll share 6 important points with you…

#1: You Simply Weren’t Right For Each Other

This is obvious, but true.

Sometimes you end up in a relationship with someone who is great in many ways, but, ultimately, you simply aren’t right for each other.

This has nothing to do with the fact that you might like Golf, and she prefers Tennis. Nope. It’s not really about ‘hobbies or interests’. And, it’s not about you leaving the toilet seat up. That’s all trivial stuff that doesn’t really matter in the grand scheme of things.

Now. Assuming you are PHYSICALLY ATTRACTED to each other, if the relationship still fails, and the general feeling is – “you just weren’t right for each other” – using that means you had:

A VALUE’s CONFLICT.

For instance:

If your highest value is SECURITY. And, you settle down with a woman who’s highest value is WILD ADVENTURE… do you really think that’s going to be a harmonious relationship where you’re in sync with each other most of the time?

Heck no!

You’re going to be making shrewd financial decisions, and safe, carefully thought through long-term plans. You’re going to be making sure the doors are locked at night, and the car alarm is switched on. Meanwhile, she’s going to be making spur of the moment decisions, usually on a whim, often trying to figure out what EXTREME SPORT she can try next!

Neither one is WRONG, they’re just not easily compatible.

Consider another value conflict…

What if you really value HEALTH. That’s your #1 value – and you therefore like to sleep at regular times, exercise daily, eat really clean healthy food, meditate and so on.

In contrast, your woman places no value on Health whatsoever. It’s just not her thing. She simply isn’t bothered. So she takes drugs, smokes, never so much as walks for more than 5 minutes, and relies purely on the Doctor if she needs Health advice. She thinks ‘there’s a pill for every ailment’.

Think that’s gonna work out?

Probably not.

You’re gonna drive each other NUTS.

Key Point: If you want a relationship to work, long-term, you must have similar VALUE’s to your woman. There’s no escaping this FACT. And, if you ignore it, you’ll likely end up in the divorce courts sooner or later!

#2: Your Communication Stinks!

I believe a lot of relationships that could work, don’t, simply because most people lack the communication skills necessary to make them work.

I’ve been with my woman for over 7 years now, and, like virtually ALL relationships – we have had some arguments. We’ve had some disagreements. We’ve had times where we don’t see eye to eye.

That’s NORMAL.

That’s life.

If you end up in a relationship with a woman who agrees with everything you say – you’d probably end up killing yourself (or her) out of sheer BOREDOM!

But, the point here, is this:

When you have a disagreement with your woman, are you going to handle it like a MAN?

Or, will you get all emotional, and end up saying something you regret?

Do you understand one of the key differences between men and women… that women are more EMOTIONAL, and men are more LOGICAL? When men and women fail to understand this, and respect it, it leads to many arguments that get blown way out of proportion, because most men expect women to think like men, and vice versa.

To make a long-term relationship work, you have to be COMPASSIONATE while remaining STRONG.

You have to be willing to compromise while staying true to yourself.

You have to be willing, and able, to step into your woman’s shoes, and see things from her perspective. And, ideally, she needs to be able to do the exact same thing for you!

I could write for hours on communication, but it’s beyond the scope of this blog post.

For now, I’ll end this section with an:

ACTION STEP: Go to Amazon.com and grab a copy of the book ‘Nonviolent Communication’. It’s an excellent read, and it’ll help you communicate better with everybody in your life, women included.

#3: Your Relationship Couldn’t Handle The Added Stress of Parenthood

Once you have kids, that’s it. Your life changes, forever.

Kids bring you a level of responsibility, joy and happiness like nothing else in life. They teach you what UNCONDITIONAL love really is!

However, they also change your intimate relationship.

It’s no longer about YOU and your WOMAN (unless you happen to be the most selfish piece of shit ever to walk the face of the Earth! But, since you’re taking time out of your valuable day to read my blog, I know you ain’t that! 😉

When you first meet a woman, it’s all FUN and GAMES…

Dates, randomness, a general lack of responsibility, and SEX. Lots and lots of hot, wet, naughty, SEX.

Then your first child comes along. And stuff changes…

Your woman is up all night Breastfeeding your child (well, hopefully she is feeding the baby that way, but these days many women don’t. But, I digress).

Your woman is EXHAUSTED.

You’re exhausted.

And, dates, sex and FUN times together, kinda become a thing of the past. At least until you figure out how to ADAPT to your new life – life with a child.

The trouble is…

It would appear many couples CANNOT adapt. And, after a few years, they give up, getting divorced, and, oftentimes, RUINING the kids childhood in the process.

In my opinion, you just don’t do that. Once you make that commitment to have children with a woman, you find a way to MAKE IT WORK.

You don’t split up, and turn your kids life upside down, just because you and your woman are finding it tricky to adapt. That’s your problem, not your kids problem! So why should they have to pay the price for it?

Sadly, a lot of people can’t make it work – maybe because they lack the intelligence to do so, or the communication skills, or the will. Or maybe because they’re just really fucking selfish. Whatever the case, this is another BIG cause of Relationship Breakdown…

The kids come along (the greatest gift a MAN and WOMAN can share together) – but, the Parent’s can’t adapt.

Sad, but true.

The Takeaway here is this: in my opinion, once you have kids with a woman, you do everything in your power to make it work. Because it’s been shown time and time again, that growing up in a single parent household, is one of the most accurate predictors of worse outcomes for children when they grow up.

#4: You Failed to Put Enough Importance on Your Sex-Life

Listen. I’m no fool.

I get that once you’ve been with a woman 15 years, you’re likely not going to be up 3 times a night, 6 nights a week, fucking her in every position from the Karma Sutra, and plastering her face, tits and ass with spunk.

I get that.

It can’t be like that forever. At 55, you probably can’t recreate the first 3 months you shared with your first serious girlfriend when you were in your late teens or early twenties (where all you did was Fuck and Suck each other senseless)!

But…

If sex becomes something that happens once a month, or… never at all, that’s a PROBLEM. Likewise, if the QUALITY of the sex goes down the toilet – and you just go through the motions. That’s a problem.

All of this is especially problematic if one person – be it the man or woman – wants A LOT of sex, and the other isn’t interested.

This can lead to a breakup. Plain and simple.

“Sexual Needs” are a powerful thing!

Key Point: You can’t always be on the same perfect “Sexual Wavelength” as your woman, once you’re in a long-term relationship. Sometimes your level of desire won’t match. But, you must try your best to fulfill each others needs. When the sex does happen – make sure it’s good! As the MAN – you gotta lead her, stimulate her mind, be creative, and give her multiple orgasms every time.

And, make time for sex at least 2 or 3 times a week. It’s absolutely key to keeping a relationship from falling apart…

…after all, what is a relationship between a Man and Woman if it’s sex-less? At best it’s a friendship. Though, more likely, it’s a source of frustration, resentment, and countless unfulfilled needs.

#5: Someone Did Something Really Fucking Stupid!

Here’s another major reason why relationships fail…

Because someone did something really stupid. Something that caused the other person to lose all respect and trust for their partner.

The obvious example here is CHEATING.

Someone cheats, the other person finds out, and BOOM… the relationship is done.

Another example might be if the guy gambles away all the money.

Or, if someone becomes addicted to toxic substances (think ‘drink n’ drugs’) that make them a nightmare to be around.

All of these types of extreme behaviour are great ways to cause your other half to no longer RESPECT and TRUST you. And, if the respect and trust goes… so, usually, does the relationship!

Key Point: Do all that you can to cultivate as much respect and trust as possible with your woman. Because relationships where there is a high degree of mutual respect and trust, usually stand the test of time.

#6: Someone ‘Let Themselves Go’

I’m really not a fan of the ‘Everyone’s a Winner’ and ‘Big is Beautiful’ type society we live in today.

Nike doing those Plus Size Mannequins was just INSANE. What does that actually teach our kids? That’s it’s ok to be a fat, lazy slob? That you can be ‘Fat and Healthy’ – er, no, no you can’t! You can’t be FAT and HEALTHY, anymore than you can have Erectile Dysfunction and be healthy! It just doesn’t work that way!

I don’t know.

It’s just nuts to me.

Anyway, my point here is this:

If you settle down with someone, and you’re highly attracted to them, and part of that attraction is because of what they present PHYSICALLY…

…and then, over time, they totally let themselves go…

…that’s NOT ok!

It’s not what you signed up for!!!

This goes for men and women by the way.

If a woman marries a guy whose say 35, and in great physical shape. But, then by 45 he’s eaten himself to the size of a baby whale, and can barely walk up a flight of stairs without needing Oxygen…

…but, she’s still so FIT that 20 year old STUDS see her in the gym, then masturbate themselves to sleep thinking about her as they lay fantasizing in their beds at night…

Who can blame her for walking out?

Or, vice versa. Guy marries HOT woman, who becomes a fat, disgusting, unhealthy BLOB. Then he leaves.

Who can blame him?

Well, if there are kids involved, I think it’s different. You don’t just walk out.

But, before kids, heck… there’s no doubt about it – “someone letting themselves go is a key reason why many relationships end”

Key Point: Keep yourself in shape. Stay healthy. It gives you STATUS. It makes you attractive to women. It allows you to be a role model for your kids. It earns you the RESPECT of other men. What’s not to like?

Thanks for reading. I hope you found value in this blog post.

====>> If you have Questions/Comments, leave ‘em below, and I WILL get back to you asap!

Talk to you soon…

Your friend,

Adam Armstrong

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